And I don’t feel sorry for naan one of ya’ll broads, lol. The homie Keez has recently hopped up off the single track and eased my way back into the dating lane…only to be reminded why my ass veered off to the side of the road with those flashing…lights in the first place. Reason being is that the majority of sistas are on the bullsh*t, and ya’ll deserve every trifling baby daddy, brotha who tries to coerce you into an abortion or dude who afflicts you with a STD that you get…aight, maybe I’m goin in a lil too hard, but follow the homie.
I will be the first to admit that there are some keepers out there, can’t really say that i’ve dated any, but they have to exist somewhere because my homegirls are all good women for the most part, but for some reason, when i’m in the club, some magnetic forcefield overtakes me and introduces me to h**s, whores, or my most coveted possession, the bullsh*ttin ass chic. For those of you who haven’t deal with the bullsh*ttin ass chic (probably because you have dough, you convinced her that your closed to getting signed to a record deal, or you’re a potential lottery pick) due to the fact that she’s a bopper in disguise, she is the reason for many men’s disgruntled twitter/facebook/myspace messages. She’s the reason why a ni**a gets all dressed up for a nice date at ten, only to hear from the broad the next day apologizing via text about how she couldn’t find a babysitter for lil Ray Ray and most likely, she’s the reason why 70% of black women are single, because one too many bullsh*ttin ass black women = a trip to the white/latina/asian side, lol. Long story short, a bullsh*ttin ass chic is one who plays games in the dating realm, she’s usually that female who tries to act too busy to respond to a call or a text, too flakey to really commit to a date she requested with you and too immature to be honest with a ni**a. Again, she is the very reason why so many sistas are single…
Reason being is because she prolongs the actual chase for way too long, instead of conceding her mutual attraction to a ni**a, she’ll continue to bullsh*t her way to the point where the ni**a actually is vengeful towards her. So a ni**a will continue to play the game, only to the point where he GTDs (gets the draws) and really gets her to like him, at this point its advantage, Ni**a, 30-Love, and so the games begin. Ladies, this is where the trifling ni**a that exists within all of us relinquishes himself onto you, because of all the games and bullsh*t you’ve put him through. Everything comes full circle…in the beginning, you treat him like a dog, you have a ni**a jumping through hoops, waggin his tail tryin to get the proverbial ‘treat’, he gets the treat, and the he dogs yo funky ass, lol.
Once upon a time ago, when you met the ni**a wherever ya’ll met, you hung out and their was a feel of mutual ‘likeability’, you decided to see if the ni**a really wanted you by playing your bullsh*t ass games, only to fail in the game of love. What you should have did was matched the ni**a’s effort from the jump so that he’d know the feeling was mutual. See, ladies, what you don’t realize is that when ni**as have to guess how a woman feels about him, it makes it difficult to give his full self to a female. For example, if i’m dating a female that I like, but i’m not sure how she feels about me, i’m not going all the way in on the romanticism, the nice dates, etc. because I don’t want to feel like i’m wasting my efforts on something that may not work out. Now, if that female gives me the greenlight into her heart and she provides me with all of the affections and attention that a burgeoning love permits…sky is the limit for the romanticism. And the key thing is, this isn’t a scornful romanticism, because I didn’t have to play the guessing game with her, I just know that she’s a good chic and we have a mutual ‘likeability’ for one another. If you think about it, ni**as, aren’t on that, if we like a female, she knows it…she can tell by my texts at 3:00 AM, when I ask her if she wants somethin from the Waffle House. We don’t mind being open with the fact that we have an affinity for a special female and I can’t really think of a situation where a ni**a really liked a female, but he would try to make the female wonder if the feeling was mutual.
Instead, the real world offers us non-ballin ass, regular 9 to 5 job havin ass ni**as the bullsh*ttin ass chic. And its cool, as men, we have to play them the same way the play us, and be hell on these h**s while they’re playing the games. In the past, I went hard way too early if I found a female I dug, now i’m finally learnin to fall back, because every female doesn’t deserve a standup guy, like myself…in the words of Juvie the Great, ‘imma get what I can get outta these h**s then i’m up’…couldn’t have said it better myself. I really believe that if black women looked at that 70% number with some real clarity, they wouldn’t do most of the sh*t they did. To me, that number says, only 3 out of 10 of us is doing a good enough job to keep a ni**a, whether it be cookin some hella crispy fried chicken, being somebody a ni**a can vent to, or giving some blazing ass ‘Becky’ © Plies, those three women are doing what it takes to keep a ni**a around. Ya’ll other 7…ya’ll f*ckin up, lol.
Like, sistas, I really challenge you to think of reasons why 70% of ya’ll are single without trying to blame ni**as on everything. I know ya’ll gonna be in the comment section b*tchin about how I gave my heart to a ni**a early and he dogged me, blah, blah, blah, but who doesn’t get their feelings hurt in the dating game from time to time? I’m sure many of that 70% dated a ‘good guy’ who she bullsh*tted with because he didn’t currently have everything she was lookin for…ni**a might’ve had a million dreams, but only a dollar in his account, but he was the type of person you could see yourself with and couldn’t get over the ni**a being broke. And to those women I say, think about Barack’s ex, I bet her ass is sittin in some apartment with the salty face cuz she slept on the ni**as dreams, lol…Let me stop, i’m sure i’ve angered the pro-Oprah crowd that frequents our site, but ask me if I give a fuggggg, lol.
Lastly, I used to be a good dude, but this epidemic of bullsh*t that is running rampant through the nation of black women is forcing me to damn near jump off the cliff…to that sea of Hispanic women, lol.
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The only thing worse than a bitter woman is a bitter man. So let's get this straight, the bops played you, you can't get a gold digger, and every other woman just bullsh*ts. What's that say about you? Have you ever stopped to think the women you date are just not that into you? If you are 26 years old still talkin about b*tches aint sh*t maybe you need to figure out what it is about your d*ck that keeps attracting aint sh*t b*tches. Maybe YOU are the cause for the 70%. Maybe you're not as great as you think you are. Maybe word got out about you and the 7 single women are afraid to date in fear they may stumble upon your woman hating @ss. In the words of MJ "I'm starting with the man in the mirror." Make that change. Find out why you attract wackness and fix it. And if you think dating Hispanic women is the key, then go right ahead. But don't assume they will want you either just because they aren't black, that's an insult to Hispanic women.
@Kiara, Thanks Kiara, I didn't have the time earlier to comment. But yeah….my sentiments exactly. This post reeks of bitterness.
@Kiara, "If you are 26 years old still talkin about b*tches aint sh*t maybe you need to figure out what it is about your d*ck that keeps attracting aint sh*t b*tches."
Aight Katt, lol.
@Kiara, “If you are 26 years old still talkin about b*tches aint sh*t maybe you need to figure out what it is about your d*ck that keeps attracting aint sh*t b*tches." Classic Quote
@Tiny, LMAO at the aforementioned quote!
@Tiny, LOL!!!!!!!!!! YEEEESSSSS!!
@Kiara,
*APPLAUSE*
@Spinster, YES!
I don't even know where to begin for this one. I wasn't going to comment but I believe your ignorance warrants a response, if even a short one. The reason you cannot find a nice young lady is because you don't respect women. Degrading a woman by calling her derogatory names is not going to earn you points. The women who comprise this 70% are surely not all ho*s and whores. Who looks for love in the club anyway? Maybe you should search elsewhere my friend.
Some women are single by choice. They casually date until they find someone they would like to get serious with. If they feel the relationship isn't going anywhere, they might blow the dude off or whatever. He can keep it moving. It happens everyday all day regardless of the gender of the person. People play games, especially when dating. So don't lash out against women for finally catching on to what men have been doing since the beginning of time!
Lastly, your argument is very fallacious. In the beginning of your argument you comment on how you will not wine and dine a girl until after you get serious because of previous bad experiences. Then you proceed to say women always cry about how they've been hurt in the past and this is why they can't have a successful relationship. Your advice to them is to move on because everybody gets hurt. You should take your own advice. Don't let past experiences with no-good women (although judgement of their character is debatable because I'm not so sure you're a hot commodity yourself) dictate your future relationship endeavors!
@R.Garvin, Couldn’t have said it better myself!
@R.Garvin,
*APPLAUSE*
What's wrong with women having pleasure? If a women looks into her desire than she is a h**. Well anyways this a hot mess. The 1st thing a nigga does when he get disappointed is run to a different race. I call them men weak.
More great posts from M. Keez… http://thefreshxpress.com/author/mkeez/
This is the thing, NI**A'S don't want the keeper, they want the flashy golddigger in the club and all the crazy, drama filled lifestyle that comes with her…most times, if you keep getting the same type of chick, you gotta take a look in the mirror and figure out what you're projecting; the same goes for women who keep getting the "dogs". But seeing as how I don't want a "NI**A" I can't even be mad at this post, lol…I want a man, plain and simple…
Firstly, as a hispanic woman, let me just say we do not enjoy lameness. Jovial racism either for that matter.
It appears you suffer from faulty logic, which when compounded with your immaturity and overall abrasive and sexist attitude does not a winner make. Your argument is based on the assumption that 70% of black women are: a. looking for a man b. Will take any man (even ones with as little to offer emotionally as yourself) and c. That they would like you to feel sorry for them.
I posit none of these are true. My guess is you will continue to get the ol blow off for many years to come
@Niki, Thank you!
LOL.Gee thanks Niki!
What?
@Dorian L. Spence, Trying not to comment about the author of the article and sticking to the subject of the article is very hard…I mean really hard, the 1st thing I hate is when you take a topic like this that is so broad and has so many reasons and water it down with personal stories that represent 1, again 1 instance out of millions of scenarios as to why 70% of black women are single…I’ll leave it at that…
As many people have acknowledged, you have to start off with the pure numbers…educated vs. uneducated is the one I give the most attention because what manifest out of this is an immediate class gap that always creates a problem. Black Women will not stop educating themselves so that they are suitable for an uneducated mate, but at the same time the power given to an educated black woman often is enough to not really need a man. I mean an educated black woman can get her own job, pay her on bills, buy her own car, etc “miss dependent” so to start off she doesn’t need a man for anything but sex and companionship. Many black men are not comfortable with making less than their women and only being needed physically and emotionally, men have this natural knack to want to be the head of the household in every sense of the phrase, which creates barriers in black male/black female relationships…this is is just one of the many reasons that I see the most frequent that I wanted to shed light on
“So a ni**a will continue to play the game, only to the point where he GTDs (gets the draws) and really gets her to like him, at this point its advantage, Ni**a, 30-Love, and so the games begin”
I stopped right there. You sir, sound like a lame big ass overgrown child. I won’t even go into all the other rage you spewed forth in the beginning of your diatribe that made you seem like you ride the short bus. I was hoping that your rant would turn into something productive, helpful, and kind even. Now I’ll never know.
@JG*, Girl, I could not even get through that much. These are the words of a bitter man. Tsk, tsk.
@JG*,
Me either. Couldn't take it.
Non-sense by way of run-on sentences.
@Dorian L. Spence, run-on sentences, grammatical errors, and profanity aside…
"Like, sistas, I really challenge you to think of reasons why 70% of ya’ll are single without trying to blame ni**as on everything."
@SW, I understand this, and will say there is some credibility to this point. (I didn't see this because I seriously stopped reading). However when you balance out the pure numbers, educated vs uneducated, incarcerated, gay (and lesbian… however I feel lesbians should be taken out of the 70% number) then we're really left hanging in the balance. Part of it is a pure numbers game. The rest of it is a vicious cycle. I know a lot of men that complain about golddiggers, etc. My roommate is one of them. However, the only thing they offer out to women are their material possessions. They don't court women anymore, they don't take the time to show women their personality. They just get real flashy from the jump and then focus on GTD as the author put it because they feel this is all we care about. They live by the "hook 'em with the good D" school of thought. I know dudes that talk about their future purchases simply as a means to get women. Come on.
@JG*, I'm not saying that this is right, but obviously it must be working for somebody if they are all doing it. Maybe it's the women who've lowered their standards? I guess there are two classes of women: those with standards, and those without. And right now, it seems that guys are saying f it. I'll take the one without the standards, screw her until I get tired of her, and move on to the next one without standards. And that's the answer to this poster's question too. Most black women are single because they have standards. Standards, which these guys aren't willing to (even attempt to) measure up to.
I think maybe he wrote this in the manner that he did for the shock value of it. Just maybe. I think his overall theme was that women bullsh*t alot, and they end up playing good dudes to the left. They often blame guys for the reasons why they’re single (i.e. men cheat, men lie, there are no good men, men are all on the DL), rather than looking at the reasons why their may be such a large number of single black women out there. Hence the whole beginning of the blog…70% of women are single, and I don’t feel sorry for any one of y’all.
These aren’t my beliefs… just trying to summarize what his views are and get away from the shock that everyone is in from his delivery, lol.
@SW, Everyone is prone to EXCUSES (spit 'em!)….. But this fool wrote this the way that he did, because he is well… a fool. Everyone BSs at some point. Let's call it what it is.
@SW, I could've possibly read it had it spoke like an educated brother. I was really interestedin the article to see if he would provide intellegent theories as to why these women are single. Alot of these resentment between black men and women stem from that grand ole thing called slavery….I know that's taking it way back; but the horrible reality of men being emasculated in front of their women by overseers, men being sold away, women being raped with no protection from their male equal, really pushed sistas into taking on a dominant role in the relationship as they had no one to protect them. Most times, (not always), Black women are not taught to be wives, many of use hear, "you better make your money so you can provide for your family cause you can't depend on a man". This is what we hear as kids growing up and then we see the men walk out of our lives, get incarcerated, drug addicted…something crazy, which gives merit to our mother's talk. We must learn to fend for ourselves, while women of different races learn that that you find a wealthy husband to take care of you (why are white women who usually only date rich black men not called gold-diggers??). and your children, let your man be the man and you a delicate flower (I'm really generalizing here). At the end of the day, we need a love pow-wow. At present Black women may need to learn to be more delicate, but we can only do that confidently knowing that our men will take care of us, protect us, and provide for our families. And for the damage done on psyche of the black family via the gov't and the media, we really need reparations; cause it really has us believing that Black men and women just can't get along…..This is what I was looking for in this article…something I could think about….even if I didn't agree with it; an intellectual debate. SW, maybe you should've written the article
yo,i'm feeling that; you can call the guy who wrote that whatever else you want to(not literally),but the thing you always have to realize(that you may or may not know) is that women have the power in relationships overall….PERIOD. Now it's because of a woman not recognizing this,that shit goes bad;but instead,quickly … Read Moreblames the man(w/o thinking) cause men are seen as the ones always in control of everything. those 70% of women don't know what power they have,but the 30% do. what percentage are the ones bitching about are? And race is never an issue with the dating outside the race. Every race deep inside doesn't like it;some just have a more expressed opinion about it,that's it. i see it all the time.
yo,i’m feeling that; you can call the guy who wrote that whatever else you want to(not literally),but the thing you always have to realize(that you may or may not know) is that women have the power in relationships overall….PERIOD. Now it’s because of a woman not recognizing this,that shit goes bad;but instead,quickly blames the man(w/o thinking) cause men are seen as the ones always in control of everything. those 70% of women don’t know what power they have,but the 30% do. what percentage are the ones bitching about are? And race is never an issue with the dating outside the race. Every race deep inside doesn’t like it;some just have a more expressed opinion about it,that’s it. i see it all the time.
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“Every female doesn’t deserve a standup guy, like myself” LMAO are you kidding???? You’ve probably never dated any “keepers” because men with your mindset don’t even deserve to be acknowledged by “keepers”
Enjoy your Hispanic women but fyi (Im speaking your language here) Bi***es come in all breeds.
The author of this particular article simply described a typical nothing ass man (no offense to anyone) and flipped it so that it makes the female look bad. My take is simply this: There are good men and women out her and there are bad men and women as well. No gender is superior to the other one however, actions are. Many of the listed reasons that the author uses to describe us as women is the precise reason I've been single for a while on the contrary.
My bad, Sean; I meant to come in earlier, but I went to check out Public Enemies (good movie, by the way…hahahaha). Anyway, I feel where the brother is coming from, TO AN EXTENT. I'm not a fan of his delivery, simply because if that's how he chooses to address women, he may never get what he feels he deserves. Anyway, like someone said, some women are single by choice; they know how fly they are, they have high self-esteem and self-worth, and aren't trippin' about being single at all. However, the women that do point the finger, regularly at men, are the ones that need to look in the mirror.
Everyone is full of it, on one level or another. If you try to claim otherwise, you're not telling the truth, period. The thing is (both men and women are guilty of this) we can't allow our hearts and souls to be hardened, due to what someone has done to us, or what's around us that we're not crazy about. Two wrongs don't make a right; a woman can play me, but I can't hold that against the next woman who may mean well (and vice-versa).
It's like this…. when you have to say that EVERYONE you meet sucks and is full of crap and blah blah blah…… It probably isn't them. It's you.
I'm single in ATL BY CHOICE. I don't even try. LOL
My initial response to this post was framed going to be in the following manner: Ignorant, and vulgar. However, I have established that you are not worth diluting my intelligence for. As all the wonderful women above stated, you are intolerant, ignorant, arguably uneducated and overall mediocre. With that said, you are who you attract, therefore you my brotha, are not much. The demise of our community exists with your glorification of that atrocious 70% rate because it signifies that our families are not united, and your assessment is that is purely the fault of the black woman? I hope you tell that to your single female family members, and closest female friends because that will certainly aid them in there self esteem building. Don't forget to instill that within your daughter as well, whether she is miscegenated or not she is guaranteed to be f'd up with you as a shining depiction of a "strong" black men. Anyways, I'm gonna close this by saying thanking you for disqualifying your wackness from the dating pool, you are one less Negro whose intentions we have to decipher.
P.S
Proofread.
That is all.
I think maybe he wrote this in the manner that he did for the shock value of it. c SW.
Whether this was for shock value, to show how ignorant one person could be, or to give a good laugh, I say thank you, you accomplished each level for me.
PS: I may be the only one that feels this way but whether it's ** or gg, nigga is still derived from nigger and it's not a good look.
@ernestinec,
by the way I have navigation, I can give you directions to that cliff.
Trying not to comment about the author of the article and sticking to the subject of the article is very hard…I mean really hard, the 1st thing I hate is when you take a topic like this that is so broad and has so many reasons and water it down with personal stories that represent 1, again 1 instance out of millions of scenarios as to why 70% of black women are single…I'll leave it at that…
As many people have acknowledged, you have to start off with the pure numbers…educated vs. uneducated is the one I give the most attention because what manifest out of this is an immediate class gap that always creates a problem. Black Women will not stop educating themselves so that they are suitable for an uneducated mate, but at the same time the power given to an educated black woman often is enough to not really need a man. I mean an educated black woman can get her own job, pay her on bills, buy her own car, etc "miss dependent" so to start off she doesn't need a man for anything but sex and companionship. Many black men are not comfortable with making less than their women and only being needed physically and emotionally, men have this natural knack to want to be the head of the household in every sense of the phrase, which creates barriers in black male/black female relationships…this is is just one of the many reasons that I see the most frequent that I wanted to shed light on
I'm VERY disappointed in this website. You just did a "BET" by publishing it without proper editing and for the lack of a better word "proof-reading," but it sounds like that grammar school term would apply to this author b/c by the looks of his verbage, a grammar school education is the extent of his "higher learning."
Totally a "thumbs down" on this article and this website for publishing it again. Now if this is the type of articles you are choosing to publish now…word of advice…don't quit your day job(s).
@TH
There is a way to discuss/debate this statistic in a healthy and intelligent manner without resorting to publishing a rant by a "man scorned."
@TH, Thanks for your comment. This is a blog, so often blogs aren't properly edited or proofread. I've seen this on even the most popular sites. This author's style of writing was intentional. He's a college educated professional, and he intentionally wrote it in "rant" form. So for us to proof it and edit it would take away from his entire writing style. Sure, we could have cleaned it up, taken out the profanity all together, changed the run on sentences, corrected typos, etc. But then his blog wouldn't have been a rant, it would have been mistaken for an intelligent analysis, which this is not.
We try to provide an open forum for young black americans to discuss any and everything. This blog is an extreme. We have MANY blogs here that are written tastefully, proofread and edited, speak on important topics, and provide intelligent analysis. This ain't one of em. We appreciate your comment though. Keep holding us to a high standard. I just don't want you taking this blog as a representation of who we are.
Please excuse any typos, I'm typing from my phone.
"For those of you who haven’t deal with the bullsh*ttin ass chic (probably because you have dough, you convinced her that your closed to getting signed to a record deal, or you’re a potential lottery pick) due to the fact that she’s a bopper in disguise, she is the reason for many men’s disgruntled twitter/facebook/myspace messages. She’s the reason why a ni**a gets all dressed up for a nice date at ten, only to hear from the broad the next day apologizing via text about how she couldn’t find a babysitter for lil Ray Ray "
You sound kind of lame fam.
If you got the masculine energy, women cant do nothin but do right by you… im not rich, play no sport, but i do have dreams and take action to accomplish them, WITH RESULTS.
At the end of the day its the mans responsibilty to take care of the female, and even though we live in a "liberated" society subconciously thats what women are looking for, so if u aint on ur shit you gonna get played out cuz they can do bad on their own.
of course lots of girls get caught up in the trivial things in life and look for the "shiniest" ninja on the block but a real woman can see through all the bullshit. You should also be able to see through the bullshit in a bad woman as well and not even put urself in that situation.
lol i wish a woman would ever cancel ANYTHING on me, you're a fool for accepting such behavior.
As for a real comment, instead of crying that everyone in a certain category or ethnicity is on that foolishness… use that energy to make sure you, as an individual, are the best catch that you can be. You can't come to the table with beer money and expect champagne served on a silver platter. If you were a woman (or man) would you want to date you? I think Kiara said it best with the man in the mirror and who you attract quotes. [Though I know we all have been approached by some bold clowns in our day, lol. How dare they! ]
@Ms. Jackson,
Amen!
Has anyone found the figures for percentage of black men that are single, incarcerated, X degree of formal education? I’m curious to see these numbers and how they fare against the “70 percent single black women”…didn’t know if anyone pulled them up or if the author had those handy. SpKeez, always delivering a shock to the people.
The answer here is simple; the author of this post makes poor choices in women! I've had this conversation so many times and everytime a women says something about "I can't find a good man," or "all men are dogs," brothas get their feathers all ruffled and want to attack the "independent black woman." A brotha told me once, that plain and simple, the reason why some women think men are dogs is b/c that's who she's chosen to deal with. She makes poor choices of women. As a single, black, successful, educated woman, I actually agree. So my problem or question is….why should I sit here as a "good woman," and have to be punished for every "gold-diggin, trashbox" or as u have deemed her the "bullsh***in' a** women YOU'VE associated yourself with. Just like men can tell when another brotha is on mess, women can tell when other women are on bullsh**. So I suggest to the author of this particular post, instead of thinking with w/ ur penis and going for the long-haired, thick redbone, with her nails did and weave flowing, or that chick that looks like this girl in a porn u've seen, or whatever; u might want to observe her actions, how she carries herself, whether she has a job, is down to earth, doesn't mind getting her hands dirty, can complete a sentence w/o smacking her lips,is a happy medium between independent and traditional woman…u might want to us ur BRAIN a little more when first associating yourself with her. Just a suggestion, instead of giving us the normal "black women are overly independent, black women play too many games, blah blah blah" MAN UP FELLAS!
@Ms. Dre', oh and for the record, I have nothing against long haired thick redbone women who get their nails done and rock weaves. I've rocked a weave, I'm fairl light skinned, now the thick part…not so much lol but I'm just using this as an example b/c this is the woman both described in and seen on music videos or in the club or whatever.
Also massive type-o (I see that we have proof-readers in the house) "HE makes poor choices in women" was the intended sentence. lol
thanks peace
Wow.
Couldn't finish reading this. It literally hurt my eyes and has worsened the headache that I've had all damn day. Besides all the "n-word"s and "b-words" thrown around, there were too many run-on sentences and no responsibility taken.
*off to refuse this bullshit*
Okay: Let me see if I can't try to play the devil's advocate here:
You said,
"I will be the first to admit that there are some keepers out there, can’t really say that i’ve dated any, but they have to exist somewhere because my homegirls are all good women (for the most part)(???), but for some reason, __when i’m in the club, some magnetic forcefield overtakes me and introduces me to h**s, whores__ , or my most coveted possession, the bullsh*ttin ass chic"
And I can agree with you that the majority of the women you find in the club at least LOOK like hoes, whores, bobble-heads, go-hards, whatever the eff people are calling female sluts these days, because they do exist in abundance…
But let's consider the "herd mentality" here, because the club has a VERY BAD REP for attracting men and women from the "floozie" side of categorizations. Meaning, I HIGHLY doubt you're gonna find an exceptional black women IN THE CLUB, and if a club hopper makes herself out to be "the archetype", I can guarantee you she's selling you wolf tickets.
Women go to the club to tease, dance, and tease, in that order. Note that many women do not intentionally give men in the club blue balls, but a lot of women don't know the power of their own body/beauty. A lot of naive women go clubbing, but complain about NOT finding Mr. Right, when the BIG problem with clubbing is that nightclubs are usually a cesspool of hormones and tastless hyper-sexual behavior… I'm talking about the men first on this one. I mean, a night of drunken sex is MUCH more fun that holding off on sex until a REAL relationship shows itself. And everyone likes what's fun more than what's responsible… Lest the hip-hop nightclub scene would be pushing up daises nationwide…
I respect the shock-value in this article, and I gotta say I know at least ONE woman who fits your description… But I've learned a long time ago that a woman who would rather stay AWAY from the club is much more of a keeper than a club hopper. Being bitter over one bad apple isn't worth the stress and waste of good M.J.
All girls just wanna have fun, but what about when the fireworks end?
This article is based on one fact (70% of black women..) and the rest of it is opinion. You make swooping generalization about ALL Black women. As a educated Black women with no children, no trifling this and that etc., I am wondering who this article is speaking to.
Please don't blame Black women for you inadequacies and misfortunes. We are not a monolithic group that hangs out in the club with "Lil Ray Ray". Please educated yourself with books and stop watching so much television.
My suggestion to Black women is not to complain about Black men's weakness i.e. jail, homosexuality, lack of education etc. Don't let this fool get to you. This person appears to want attention and draw traffic his/hers way.
We must open our horizons. Don't limit yourself to Black men!
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single meaning unmarried right? OPRAH IS SINGLE. TYRA IS SINGLE. LAUREN LONDON IS SINGLE.
I mean, there are lots of single people. But if people wanna just stick to their race, there aren’t enough free (not in prison), straight, black men out here for the woman who are the same.
Wow this just shows you how ignorant a person can be. BW need to expand their options. I am currently dating a White Man and I have never been happier in my life. So to all the BW out there don't complain about BM and what they "are not" doing because there are plently of Non-Black men out there that will gladly step up to the plate.
@Patricia,
There are also plenty of Black Men out there who will gladly "step up to the plate", but in my opinion, bitter switch-hitters such as yourself are turning them off, and making them run to a White Woman.
You're advocating the "reverse", that Black Women "expand their *options*", but isn't that why this redundant conversation is still mulling on anyways?
Instead of encouraging Black Women to simply give up on Black Men and date outside their race, why don't you try talking to the non-responsible Black Men making upstanding, responsible Black Men look bad? You seem to have a convoluted view that ALL responsible Black Men have fallen off the face of the planet, thus making Interracial Dating a more justified "option", when the truth is that there are plenty of us Good Black Men out there waiting for their chance to show a woman what real love is.
Sure, you might be "dating" this White Man, but is he worth marrying? Maybe **Black People IN GENERAL** should stop focusing on dating and worry about marriage more, because God knows that this nation needs strong, sturdy Black Families to set better examples.
I have the exact opposite problem. All I attract is Keepers and I'm too busy for em right now cuz i'm in the industry … so den I get with the non keepers and then they wanna be kept… I'm what any woman would want, so i guess i have the gift-and the curse… lol life is Tough…
Let's all just meet up and box it out. Whoever wins the fight wins the argument. lmao. Juuuust kidding. I agree with mostly everyone here. Anyone who attracts the same type of person and can't figure out why they're attracting them needs to take a look at themselves and see what it is about their inward or outward appearance that says "Type F, get at me." But I don't think it's a good look to call women b's and h*es just because you ran into some off chicks.
I'll also take a stab at why educated black women are single: I think one reason is because they aren't willing to lower their standards to what is now deemed "acceptable" by society. Meaning, it's not acceptable for you to yell at me from across the street or room to get my attention. It's not okay for me to come and pick you up, and pay for your food and drink, and your ticket to the movies on our first date. I would appreciate if you didn't approach me like I cared that you have a BMW with 22's on it. I don't want to be your #3 – or even your #1. I WOULD like to be your ONLY one though…. I could go on and on with scenarios or weak ass lines dudes have used , thinking they were doing the right thing, but I'll stop it at this: Just like guys ask for respect from women, they should be able to give it.
son i feel you. Smfh at the English 101 on vocab and all that stupid ish. You spell stupid as stoopid you dont lose any points in case you didnt know. Smfh, people feel “upset” by bad grammar and all that ish no one cares about at the end of the day. What i took from that whole thing applies to any woman regardless of the ebonics he used, a woman is never straight up and its not a new age thing cause you see it in movies and all that sh!t. A girl takes a guy’s number…how soon is too soon so that i wont look like a fiend and all that BS. Then the obsession with not wanting to seem easy and this aint free, he gotta work for it and all that which i agree with because when you work for something you appreciates its value even more but then again, most women push it abit too much…you become bored and disinterested and then to her you didnt wanna work for it and all that BS. Like any and everything, there are good and bad on each side, Today i’m saying in terms of women….stop denying you have feelings for a brother for months on end….2-3 weeks is ok but a month (which i can go for is ok but a day more than that is pushing it) and u expect a dude to still be there? Time is money honey, you waste time, you waste money. Tomorrow i’m saying, guys stop talking about women making it too hard when youze a bum. Like was said before, a good chic goes to the club but she dont be there every week, that’s a smut. Clubbin isnt the only place to listen 2 music and have a good time. Stop tryna bag chicks when you aint got shit…..people always mismatch……you aint got cash but you want a chick that got alot. You ugly as fck but want a pretty chick. While you have to have the confidence that you could get any chick in the world, keep it real, dont say she aint cute when she ugly as hell but 10x cuter than you….ladies want a man that got it all and pissed when he lives at home with his parents but they in the same boat living with their parents also. Nobody wants to maintain anybody in a recession, he broke, you broke but you like him alot so try it. Why would i work hard to get you and you aint got nothing, you aint working n u aint got ya own place so what am i getting from you that i aint getting elsewhere? Keep it real ppl, she works but he don’t? ok just dont be paying all their bills and dating expenses. You know he dont work, you cant be expecting dates n gifts cause he aint got no money and vice versa for the guys…cant expect the women to pay for her meals if u ask her on a date n she aint workin…….Stop being superficial, find your match n eliminate the ppl that use u. Love hurts, it aint easy but that dont mean u aint gotta try. If you aint willing to get hurt then you aint willing to be in love…doesnt always have to hurt, but to find the best most times you gotta sort through the worst. Some get it in one shot…..the realistic chances of that is about as good as winning the lottery. I love women, shout out to my ma for making me see a lil bit of good in every women because black men got it hard…being a black woman in today’s society? as a black man, i couldn’t do it..mighta been a suicide statistic so shout out to women in general..special shout out to all the black women out there…i’m out…deuces…Trini ppl, we run this b*tch!!NY all day!!
reason why they are single could be alot of reasons but the number 1 reason is they're not being honest with themselves…. they say they want a good dude educated caring and @ least easy on the eyes and when they find it they're scared to commit or generalize the person is boring. Its always the opposite of what they say… but hey u cant help who u attract and u cant help who ur attracted to most women just need to be real with themselves
There is an apparent reason why 70% of Black women are single. Maybe the percentage is lower than stated but we must admit there is a problem in the black community. Ok Black women are educating (indoctrination) themselves and aquiring material possesions. Educated black men find it challenging to find a good woman, one who is a compliment of him! a team player, master helper! I think we have been hood winked into believing in status and mental masturbation! One thing we can come to a concensous on! is that the uninification between the black man and woman is endangered and on the verge of extinction. Why is our children more likely to drop out of school, go to prison, drug abuse, etc. I guess this show's the wonderful job a single parent house hold is doing. I'm not hear to beat up on sista's or make excuses! we know there's a serious problem within our house holds. I for some educated sista to present a solution. I hope we can all come into true consciousness! we need to get it together people! and sistas stop perming your hair and putting weave and crazy colors in it.
Alot of people aren’t looking at a few things. Your twenties are for fuccin up. You’re still getting to know who you are. It’s all about where each person is mentally with regaurds to relationships. The ones that play games, male or female, are clearly telling you they are not ready for a relationship whether they think they are or not. No matter what their mouth says, and body does, they just aren’t ready. Its not that important to them yet. That goes beyond age, race, sex and so many other things. Women are trying to avoid being a statistic these days. I think this speaks well for what the black community has done for itself. The fact that some men don’t view it the same is disheartening but that shows how they were taught growing up. The single parent home rate is alarming. They know, are related to, or came close to being that single parent and they don’t want it. When people are ready for a relationship, they’ve grown out of pride and ego, can take the rejection, and can be honest in saying “you’re not the one I want to be with” I’ve recently learned this myself. There is nothing wrong with deciding against someone and if they’re open minded they’ll take it with a grain of salt and keep pushing. Being patient, knowing the signs of someone who is not mature, and paying attention to signs alleviates the whole story about people “playing games” This was obviously written by someone who doesn’t know how to read signs. Try to learn from your own and your peers past relationships and use it to your advantage. at 26 you should be able to smell games a mile away.
Id rather be the 70% of the single black female population than the 99% brothas in prison population.. go rob a liquor store wih the bullshit..
The negative stats might be true about Black men and Black boys, but who raised these Black men to be f**k ups. Who are raising these Black boys to be gang members, murderers, rapist, and robbers?
Why cant black women teach their own sons to love and respect them starting with their own mothers? I thought black women were so strong and all..
63 out of every 100 black men are raised by you the black women yet you have black women hating on black men for going outside the race, so if you have a problem with that you need to check what you did wrong..
How many of us have taken the time to stop, think and analyze what that "70%" statistic really means? First, if this number is true, I'm sure it was likely taken from a census statistic–which would include all black women who are were counted. "Women" is typically defined as 18 years old and up. What is the breakdown of that 70% by age group (i.e teens, 20s, 30s, etc.)? "Single" also has a broad definition. How many of that figure are defined as "never been married" (which, again, would include all women starting at age 18 years of age. Proportionally and actually, few women in America, regardless of race, get married before age 22–yet those women are counted in this statistic. It should also be noted that this is the category that people assume the 70% exclusively means.); "divorced" (meaning, they have been married before, and who knows who was at fault for the divorce?); "widowed"; and those women who subscribe to bisexuality or homosexuality, but who are still women not likely to be married due to the laws associated with their sexual preference–and still counted in the 70%. Numbers aren't always what they seem. Don't just swallow them wholesale.
I want to say that first of all we need to eliminate rap music and take it back to the 60s when Diana Ross and the Supremes made music about love, danced, and had a good time without the violence. Marvin Gaye put out great music with meaning and knowledge. Rap music has gotten a bad rep this decade so I don't even listen to rap music anymore. It's amazing how much my brain cells have grown since not listening to rap music anymore. I listen to R & B but only the R & B that sings about love and being in love. A lot of young men and women don't know nothing about love or even been shown love. It's the media and all this rap music folks that's got every female looking for a guy presented to them a perception of "He's got to look like the new hottest rapper". I left the whole rap game alone and I did it before January 1st. Rap music leads to aggression and rejection of true feelings of love. I should've listened to Delores Tucker years ago. So yeah, the very first thing we need to do is eliminate rap music. Get that shit off the face of the Earth because it glorifies criminals and whores, presenting an image to the whole world even outside of America that we as black people are fools, and everybody knows we are not fools.
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