Can You Trust The Homies That Cheat on Their Significant Other?

Anybody that really knows me knows that I follow Foxxhole Radio damn near religiously. You see, the Foxxhole is the only place in the world where my recklessness/ignorance is not looked down upon.

Rather, the Foxxhole is a safe haven for all the brothas like me who make tasteless jokes about fat chicks and who promise to honor and commit to the low self esteem broads of America. At the same time, the Foxxhole can be a thought provoking show, and so I have to pay reverence to the homie, Johnny Mack, for blessing me with the idea for this week’s post, as he stated that he can’t trust/do business with brothas that cheat on their wives/significant other…this really forced me to think about a lot of the homies, the cheatin, and it kinda made me question how deep our friendship could be, given these circumstances.

The conclusion I came to is that I agree with Mack…to a point. Its difficult to really trust a brotha completely who will cheat on his wife (not jumpoff), who may be the mother of his children, but most importantly, she is the woman whom he pledged a lifelong promise of honor, commitment and fidelity to, all essential qualities in any significant relationship (ll). So if he openly commits adultery, can you really consider him to be the ideal business partner? I mean, hell, if a woman can give this brotha kids, that Becky (c) Plies and dinner every night for the rest of his life, and the brotha still does his one, two on the side, can I really expect this dude to be 100% committed to our friendship? The negro in me says yeah…my intuition says, ‘Wait a minute muhf*cka’ © Polow Da Don.

The negro in me realizes that you can easily separate your friendships from your wifey, and just because you are cheating on the wifey, that doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ll be disloyal to the homies. In some ways, the relationship between friends can be stronger than that of husband and wife, simply because of the length of the friendship, the history of the things you’ve been through, etc. While you may not condone the cheating, your thought is, ‘What he beat on the side don’t make me…pay alimony’, so who cares, ya’ll still remain friends and that bond will last until the wifey finds out, takes half, and now the brotha is living in your basement. Despite his infidelities with his wifey, he’s always been the ideal friend so like in any relationship, I don’t think you should withhold your trust or being your full self…until the homie causes you to be indifferent about him having your best interests in mind, in that case its onto my intuition.

Intuiton gives you the wherewithal to understand when you’re in compromising situations and even though you’ve been lifelong friends with the homie, the fact that he’s cheatin on wifey shouldn’t draw a red flag…but it should be a flashing yellow light. For instance, he/she’s cheatin on their significant other, you loan this dude $10,000 on the strength of the friendship, and this dude changes his Boost mobile number on you…now you sayin ‘Where you at?’, and this brotha done moved to Alabama to start a new family with his jumpoff with your ‘seed’ money. In situations like that, you can’t say, ‘Damn, I didn’t know’, all you can really say is ‘I shoulda knew this muhf***a’, lol. In situations like this, I say to myself WWJMS…What Would Judge Mathis Say. Imagine if you’re in the courtroom, with the aforementioned story, you loan the cheatin homie the money and he skips town on you. Mathis is gonna say in so many words ‘N****, you shoulda seen the writing on the wall’ and if you didn’t have that loan in writing, he’s gonna say…’next case’, lol.

Over the years, I can say that i’ve had plenty of friends, both male and female, who’ve been guilty of infidelity in some form, hell i’ve been guilty myself, but that broad deserved it. However, i’ve never let their infidelities get in the way of my bond/trust I had for that person, color me blind, but i’m really a trustworthy individual until someone gives me a reason to relinquish that trust by violating me in some way…who gives a damn what they do to violate their significant other, lol. At the same time, if our trust is violated, I can’t say that I wasn’t forewarned because like I said, if you can’t be loyal to the person you wedded, how can I expect to be 100% loyal to me, so I guess a brotha is slightly teetering the fence on this one. But let me know what ya’ll think, because I know people who refuse to associate with people who are cheaters. But I also know brothas who could give a f***… showliiiiiiiiiiiiiiight!