Its this evil myth that haunts the house of ovaries time after time (c) Cyndi Lauper…What is that myth you ask? Its the one that says men actually enjoy hanging out with the opposite sex…well truth be told, for the most part we dont….lol
I realized this a few years back when I was living in a different state that in most cases I dont enjoy hanging out with females in the least bit. Half the time you just tolerate the company, in order achieve the goal. That goal: doin the nasty (old school, child term), aggressive cuddling, or mouth hugs. Those are the first 3 that come to my mind..lol….I’ve come to notice that after all these years if sex wasnt involved for the most part ehhhh I wouldnt even entertain havin a snatch over just because. Probably wouldnt ask her out to kick it in a setting which would involve some type of interacting where she would actually talk. Besides who wants to hear about Beyonce or gossip all damn evening! If its not that then you get the other extreme, a female who could very well masturbate to the history channel & CNN. They wanna discuss all types of non interesting stuff that wasnt even part of the story.
Now on the flip side, When I actually vibe with female, I’ll actively pursue kicking it with her. I’ll stay pulling the trigger, shooting at her so we can hang out because its a possibility there is some potential there. This is rare my friends! Like a girl who swallows & cooks in the same house. But for the most part if that aspect isnt there then I’ll stay neutral and usually nonchalant about the whole thing. Like the only time they would get a response is if the invite included her bedroom as the location for us kicking it. Other wise, no dice….
Now what I have noticed is that the ones I do vibe with have the better potential of turning it into something else. Easy logic right? Nope because dudes will still hand cuff chicks who they can barely stand to be around. Its smooth when you can hang with female without any sexual slash mouth huggin expectations. So ladies if you ever wonder why a brotha doesnt hit you till after 10:45, or right off top invites you on a movie night date on his fancy couch, or doesnt actively pursue outings in a public setting then more than likely hes just trying to dump d***. You’ll notice because when you do kick it in non f**kable setting, ya’ll tend to keep running into those awkward silence moments…lol…Which can be the most hilarious thing on earth. Because you try to be engaging and spark a conversation but in reality only thing yall got in common is latex & saliva….
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Very good read…but my favorite part was the last paragraph. I have been tellin my females friends that if a guy is truly interested in you, he won’t just take you out (in public) but he will actively engage in conversation that doesn’t pertain to sexual things. I have also noticed that when a guy is interested, he does actively pursue you(like you said). The after 10:45 texts/calls are NOT a good thing and a first date on anyones couch isn’t either!!! On the other hand, its sad to realize that men aren’t generally interested in hanging out with a female…I would like to believe I’m a fun and entertaining person
I used to go by that mantra..that guys dont want to hang around females..but Im a ninja for real. I point out phatties and make crass jokes and poke fun at people and drink most men under the table and play video games…so I may be different. still I am “Hittable” and they may just be waiting for the right moment when I am drunk enough. The only time we hang out is in group settings, single on one sessions always turn into sex or close to it. So I for the most part agree …
Men. want. it. all.
If women are too abrupt and to the point (lets just have sex), then a) it’s no fun for them because there’s no chase, and or b) she becomes in his mind easy?
How do you all love a challenge, and at the same time hate putting in quality time?
This was hilarious on so many levels. My favorite things were “mouth hugs,” those awkward silences and the nothing in common but “latex and saliva” … WoW & LMAO!
I think though, I will add that there are men out there like these women that you don’t want to be around. And, unfortunately, there are a LOT of them. Some guys are entirely too self-centered, egotistical & narcissistic, (which all basically sum up to be the same thing) and can’t string two words together let alone a coherent sentence that it’s a good thing that they look good etc.
I feel you guys that don’t want to be around girls like that, because I know I don’t want to be around guys like this.
There are always the exceptions to every rule.
I agree, this article was beyond funny. But still pointed out truth and made me think “how obvious!” Well done to the OP. I always wondered my men who seemingly can’t stand me still gave it their last go… now I know it was only saliva and latex they saw in the future. Too bad that never worked out lol.
You had me until you denigrated a woman who likes to talk about the History Channel and CNN. It would seem that you neither care for the events of the past nor present. What exactly do you want her to talk about? You certainly can’t expect her to always be willing to discuss the latest NBA trade talk, or the prospects of Mike Vick being playing for the Raiders. Perhaps it is your constrained list of talking points that keep you from enjoying yourself. The only women I can’t stand to be around, unless I am pursuing sex, are the ones who aren’t funny. A funny chick goes a long way.
I think I argued this point on The Stoop. I think we agreed that you were wrong, lol, since I do have guy friends who enjoy hanging out with me and do not want me outside of a friend. Let me check my records and get back to you.
Your obviously a girl. Your pic gives it away. If you think your man friends like your company just because of your company…you are wrong lol
They are all thinking about shagging you at least most of the time, its nature!
What is with young Black men and women using the word FEMALE as their default term when the words women/woman or ladies/lady would suffice?
@Erin, It’s like “dude” for girls. It’s more socially acceptable than “chicks.” Do you walk around referring to males as “gentlemen” all the time?