I must be really out of touch with the 2009 concept of marriage. For the second time in a month, I heard about one person of an unhappy couple getting their spouse to agree that they should have sex with other people. What THE hell? I’m not even married and I seem to take marriage more seriously than some of these people out here.
A few weeks back, I was listening to Michael Baisden and they were discussing the fact that so many women (over 50%) have never achieved an orgasm. Oprah also did a show on the same thing. Now I realize why women go so crazy for a man that can make them cum, but like all the experts have said, it has less to do about the man and more about the lack of knowledge a woman can have about her own body. In the words of one doctor, “be comfortable at home before you start inviting people over.”
So a lady calls in and said she and her husband have been married for 15 years or so. They haven’t had sex in 13. 13 YEARS. He doesn’t have erectile dysfunction. He doesn’t have any medical problems. They went to counseling. She bought sex books, guides, toys, and even a swing. NONE OF IT WORKED. So she decided she needed a dude on the side.
What’s worst is that her husband AGREED TO IT. “I can’t or don’t want to have sex with my wife, so here my dude……you do it.” What in the world is this about? I haven’t seen a picture of his wife, but if you can’t get it up for your wife, you shouldn’t have married her. Was she burned or something? I don’t know.
Freak case? nope. I saw the same thing on Divorce Court a few weeks ago. Only this time, it was the man who was sleeping with other women. On top of that, he asked his wife sign a contract saying he could sleep with other women….AND SHE DID IT. All in preservation of their bullshit front, marriage.
Personally, I don’t believe in divorce, but I haven’t been married to test out what I say. Unless there is adultery or abuse (especially physical) of course. The solution to staying married though is NOT telling your spouse to go ahead and get some on the side. What part of the game is this?
Do any of yall think you could make an arrangement similar to this?
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No…no I never no. If a woman never has an orgasm the blame lays in three places. Her…because she either hasn’t said anything or said what can get her there. Him for never asking or really trying to make it happen. Both of them for not exploring. This scenario reminds me of an R.Kelly song…You remind me of my jeep – and I gotta take it to Jiffy Lube. Hell naw.
Unless you are a pimp and your marriage partner is a hoe….then no!
WOW……not even at the Weakest point in my Marriage would I ever consider accepting such non-sense. Thats just like an Ex. He would be the happiest camper If I were ever to agree in a threesome……*blank face* I’m thinking NEXT ! Because seriously, if you allow your mate to be sexually involved with anyone OTHER than you….well you might as well part ways and title yourselves as friends, because thats a recipe for disaster. You’re VERBALLY CONSENTING ADULTERY….and Who are YOU to Modify the LAWs that GOD has already established??? I’m just saying… If You’re not physically and mentally attracted to a person….Do NOT sign your life over to them as a Spouse. When I do get married I will have to be Physically attracted to you on all levels. It has to be both ways. Once I’m married–I wouldn’t mind doing new things to keep our sex life spicy (EXCEPT for adding another Woman into my BED)–as a Husband/Wife, thats one of the duties. Because once interest is Lost, I’m sure it’d be hard to regain composure after that.