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By: Carlton Jordan » Blog Archive » RESPECT THE BI: A FRESH LOOK AT BISEXUALITY

Sat, 02 Jan 2010 18:01:37 +0000

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By: dick daly

dick daly — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 04:25:23 +0000

i never even knew that people had a problem accepting bisexuality as a valid form of sexual identity. the concept seems pretty straight forward to me. i personally love bisexual women just like i love straight women. i have dated a few in the past and am currently doing one now. it sad, however, that the bisexual girl i’m seeing now is ashamed to tell me about it. i’ve recently found out from a girl i’ve been with in the past that has also been with my current girl recently, and they have done more that just kissing (i don’t know how i get so lucky). if i married a bi-sexual woman we could either have a monogomous relationship. but if she wanted, i would allow her to openly pursue other women, if i can also be involved. as long as we have an understanding that we cannot throw a dude in the mix. i’m in no way attracted to men so i don’t want them involved. as usual, my opinion is very different than most other dudes, but there it is.

By: ChaoticDiva

ChaoticDiva — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 03:57:04 +0000

@ChaoticDiva, I also want to point out, just because you are bi doesn't mean you can't prefer one gender over the other. Some like dating women more than men, some the latter.

By: ChaoticDiva

ChaoticDiva — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 03:56:04 +0000

I cosign this article. Especially the part about not being considered bisexual if you haven’t had sex with another woman.

I feel that in bisexuality, a person is open to finding a soulmate within either sex. I.E. If I find a female that I click with, then yes, I will be monogamous with her. Same with men.

You also must love the idiotic comments that you get from male lovers: “I’m willing to do a threesome with you and another woman”. Um, ok? You think I wouldn’t be uncomfortable watching my man mess with another woman right in front of me?!?

Shoot, Bisexuality does not equal sex-crazed perv.

By: Sheera

Sheera — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 23:47:40 +0000

Interesting read. I’d just like to add that sexuality, as most human things, runs on a spectrum. For y’all folks that feel dignified forcing someone into a box because you are comfortable being a 10 or 1 (gay or straight [or vice versa] makes you closed minded, disrespectful and, frankly, pretty idiotic … IMO

By: km

km — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 22:05:31 +0000

Torrey, I bet she finds it as easy and difficult to be in a monogomous relationship as any hetreosexual or homosexual person does. Being bi-sexual does not mean a person can not be in a monogmous relationship with one gender. When straight ppl marry, it doesn’t mean they become asexual and stop find other people attractive. The same would be true for bi-sexual people or homosexual people. Many of the bisexual women I know are married, and have never cheated on their spouse with a woman. That doesn’t make them less bisexual, it just means they are in committed, monogomous, relationship.

By: PurpleLaceZ

PurpleLaceZ — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 21:08:25 +0000

@SA, ladies and gentlemen!! I present Exhibit A- the very same blatant and disrespectful ignorance I spoke against in my post! Take a bow, fool, take a bow.

By: PurpleLaceZ

PurpleLaceZ — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 21:07:26 +0000

@Torrey, you've completely illustrated one of the myths around bisexual people- that we're incapable of monogamy. That's like saying that a heterosexual married woman can't be faithful to her husband because by definition, she finds men attractive, i.e. she wants to sleep with all of them. And no, I still identify as bisexual, because it's not about my relationships, it's about my identity. Being married won't stop me from being attracted to women, the same way that other married women can still look at other men and find them attractive. Hope I cleared up a few points for you...

By: SA

SA — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 16:10:41 +0000

Bisexuals are nothing more than undercover homosexuals

By: Torrey

Torrey — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 13:13:02 +0000

I became totally confused when you mentioned that you are engaged to a man. Why, then, do you identify yourself with being bisexual? Will you not be faithful in your marriage and cheat with other women? Do you happen to believe that if you are with another woman that it’s not cheating? I’ll be honest and state that I don’t understand the complex of being bisexual, it just doesn’t make sense to me. Last question, sinse you’re marrying a man, does that make you identify with being heterosexual now?