Chivalry is Dead and WOMEN KILLED IT!

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I’m just going to ask the question. Flat out…Is chivalry dead??? Honestly, I think it is. I think that the reason chivalry is dead is that…The ladies have killed it!! I think that the ladies, and this is no fault of their own, have become so independent and so used to doing things for themselves that when a man opens the door, pulls out a chair or stands up as she is leaving the table they don’t know how to respond to it. Again, I don’t hold the ladies accountable because a lot of them probably aren’t used to a man doing that for them. They’ve probably heard of the days of long past when men were expected to that sort of thing. I think that some women think of men “comfort” rather than herself. Don’t get me wrong that’s cool, but let us be men and do that chivalrous act for you.

For example, I was out with a young lady a while back and I noticed that she was cold. It was chilly outside, and she was wearing a t-shirt and had her scarf wrapped around her arms. I had on a long sleeve button up shirt with a cardigan on top of that. I asked her if she wanted my cardigan, she said no. I asked her again and again she said she was fine. I finally insisted and again she refuted my offer. So, we get to the restaurant, and one of her friends meets us up there. At the table, her friend takes off her jacket and as soon as she lays it down, she asks her friend can she use it. I looked at her and was like…”WTF!!!” I didn’t say anything about it until the next day and she couldn’t believe I had an issue. She said that she didn’t want me to sacrifice my comfort. I told her “I have no issue sacrificing my comfort for you. I wouldn’t have asked you if I wasn’t willing to do so.” I gave her another example of if there was a puddle and I laid my jacket over the puddle so she can walk on my jacket instead of the puddle, she would simply walk around the puddle and ignore my gesture. Now don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t lay my coat down for anybody to walk on in the rain. I too would walk around the puddle, but I think you get the point.

My grandma told me that in her day, all men opened doors for ladies, helped them with their coat, pulled out chairs, stood up when they the left the table etc. She’s 83 yrs old. She informed me that it was an expectation. She informed me that it showed character and a young mans values. Based on how my grandma explained it, class or social and economic upbringing didn’t apply when it came to chivalry. It could also be geographical. A lot of southern women who I meet who migrate to the Midwest, are disappointed in the men up here because they feel that men lack the basic skills of how to treat a lady. Ie. Walking curbside while the lady walks inside of you, offering your coat, waiting for her to sit down and eat before you dig in etc etc etc…Now, don’t get me wrong, some of us men aren’t taught these basic acts of how women should treated. I also know that some women aren’t taught to expect or demand a man to do these things. I know that some ladies simply don’t care. I just get irritated when a young lady complains that men don’t do the simple thing but some women are too independent to accept or appreciate them. Nothing is wrong with doing things for oneself. I’m not knocking women who are independent. Like I’ve expressed in many of my blogs, I love the independent women…but there is a very fine line. I’m just asking the ladies to maybe look at themselves and ask why….Could I be the cause of why CHIVALRY IS DEAD!!!

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