I really have to know, is shacking up really such a big deal?
Let me paint two pictures for you. This couple has been together all through high school, 5 YEARS of love and commitment, the talk of the hallways and everything, can’t get away from each other, then freshman year of college rolls around. They’re sticking together of course, even decide to just get an apartment so that they can (finally) live together.
One week later….they bomb. Can’t stand each other. All of their elders warned them not to do it, that it would end thier relationship, that living together changes things….and it turned out they were right. Now at every opportunity they see the two, they say I told you so and that they could have had a great marriage if they would have waited…….hold up….5 years right? I mean I know it was high school and all but shouldn’t they be getting a pat on the back for NOT jumping into a star-crossed marriage destined to fail from jump? At least now they know it couldn’t have worked and all they gotta do is move out. And ok, just to ramp it up a bit. Now our two model lovers are grown. Been together, fully committed, deeply in love for 8 years.
This has been built through college and then even past to being on their own. They’ve grown with each other. The dude is thinkin to put a ring on it but figures they should move in together first, test the waters….he puts up the suggestion and immediately puts her hand on her hip, cocks her head to the the side and says oh nah, what you thinkthisisidontdothatskankyishyoubettagetouttaherewiththat……………
When she finally calms down, she explains that moving together might ruin things….but isn’t that to point? I thought it was supposed to be about easing into it, saving the heartache and hardships of a divorce or worse, just being plain STUCK with each other. What do you all think? Is shacking up really that degrading and bad? Do people need to give these things more time? Also, if it is ok, when is a good time?
We only live for so long.
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I lived with a man.. at first.. it was all good.. but when the relationship starts to have its issues and you have no where to go.. that is when things get ruined.. honestly.. a relationship can have problems either way.. but the problems seem to be bigger when you are constantly up under each other in the same roof.. and when things go awry the issue is always “we shouldn’t have moved in”.. The reality you’re probably blaming the issue on that instead of dealing with the root.. At the same time.. “shacking up” is not a move that should be taken lightly.. living together adds a whole rack of other issues into a relationship, space, sharing bills, whereabouts.. way more than I can leave in a comment box!